We all have desires, goals an ambitions. We want to achieve a lot of things. Something big, something grand. These goals can be anything may be losing weight, starting a family, becoming a billionaire.
We want to complete these goals but these goals can seem far away, so far that it can be feel like a dream which is out of reach. As a result many people give up.
The major reason we fail or give up is the pressure, we try to make grand changes. If this doesn’t happen we become discouraged and then we quit!
This cycle can repeat again and again.
The reason people fail to change their lives, and fail to stick to new habits, is because they try to do too much at once. In simplest terms, if your new habit requires more willpower than you capacity, you will fail. If your new habit requires less willpower, you will succeed.
While writing doesn’t pay all my bills, I am most definitely a writer now. (I feel so :p)I think a part of me always has been on some level. It’s something I am incredibly passionate about. It’s something I spend much time and energy on.
I was so lazy to write before, I used to think I will write a book but always failed. I promised to write more than I actually wrote. I thought about the books I was going to write without writing a word. I thought about ideas for articles without committing a single word to the page.
Thankfully, this has changed. I realized i need to start small.
In fact, it’s changed to the tune of eights articles. My words have now read by many people. I feel good about it.
Please Note: “I share this not to brag but to let you know that I succeeded in making writing my habit and any ideas that follow have been hard won and tested. ”
None of this would have been possible if I had continued to stay in the self-imposed blocks I had put myself in.
After failed attempts to force writing, I finally tried another way. I decided to commit to writing just one line a day.
Some days that one line turned into many pages ,sometimes it was just one line. But that was okay for me. It was something that worked for me and I could stick with. I still follow this, so that my dream of writing a book become true one day.
You know why it worked?
Getting started created momentum for me and also I was liberal with how I use my time.
I never felt pressure to have one big writing block per day.
One line is also a low enough entry point that I don’t feel bad if I miss a day completely. And sometimes I do have days where I won’t write a word. Not the trendy advice of the day perhaps, but it works just fine for me. I feel no guilt about missing a day but often find I’m twice as productive the day after a day missed and will get lots of ideas down.
A small habit has been the catalyst for much positive change in terms of my writing.
My example includes my writing because this is something I’m passionate about. Writing may not be your thing and it doesn’t have to be. This approach travels and works for all sorts of goals. I know because I utilise it regularly for lots of personal goals.
What I’ve also found is that what appears to be a small habit change, and new behavior, can start to have a compound effect. We create positive momentum. We set ourselves up for success.
This small habit approach is very simple and that’s exactly where the power of it. Simple doesn’t mean easy, this approach still takes work. Big goals are fine as a guiding star, but they need to be supported with smaller steps. Developing these small, positive habits can support even the largest of goals. Wishful thinking will not.
Give this small habits approach a try and you be may be surprised by where it takes you!