Can you believe me if I tell you that your lack of confidence is putting limitations on your success?
Hear me out, no one just pops out of the womb feeling self-assured and confident. Behind every confident person there is years of hard work. Creating a strong sense of self is a personal skill that you (yes, you!) can develop over time.
Imagine the monster under your bed as your insecurities. When you think of the monster, you can’t sleep and you’re paralyzed with fear. You’ll stay awake all night, scared for your life, until you turn on the light and realize there’s nothing there. Your confidence is that light.
When you find your confidence, your insecurities will shrink and you’ll live a happier life. You’ll finally reach the success you’ve been working for. The fears holding you back won’t seem so intimidating. If you’re ready to change your life and discover your confidence, these tips are just what you need.
Here are 20 powerful ways to be more confident in yourself:
1. Destroy self-doubt
Stop second guessing yourself. If you believe you can do it, you can do it. Self-doubt is a traitor to confidence. When you choose to doubt yourself, you are accepting failure before you even try to succeed
2. Silence your inner critic
You are more than enough and you know it! The voice in your head should be reminding you of your awesomeness every day. You kill your confidence when you speak badly about yourself. Stop convincing yourself that you are less than you are.
3. Stop comparing yourself to others
The grass isn’t greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it. Don’t compare yourself to others! Your greatest victory is that you are undeniably you. Comparing sprouts jealousy and competition where it doesn’t belong, thus killing your confidence.
4. Smile, often
Have you ever heard of the RBF? We all have it and it’s a little intimidating. Smile and show off your pearly whites. It’s makes you more approachable AND it’s scientifically proven to boost your mood. You’re more confident when you’re happy, you know?
5. Use positive language
Interlace your daily conversation with positivity. Speak highly about yourself, your life and the lives around you. Say ‘thank you’ instead of ‘I’m sorry.’ Bring confidence to your narrative.
6. Change your mindset
No more negative Nancy. Remove negativity from your life and your outlook. If you view everything in a negative light, nothing positive shines through. Confidence stems from positivity, choose to carry a positive mindset.
7. Be grateful
Appreciate everything. Yourself included. Practice gratitude and inspire yourself and others. Remind yourself daily of all the amazing things in your life, it will fill your heart with positivity. Inspire happiness and confidence through appreciation.
8. Practice self-care
Learn to love yourself and take care of your personal well-being. Allow confidence to radiate off of you when you practice self-care throughout your mind, body, and soul.
9. Trust in your abilities
You’re fully capable of accomplishing what you want with the abilities you have. You just need to trust in yourself. Discover confidence when you carry a sense of pride in your work and in your potential.
10. Embrace your flaws
Your imperfections are a part of you and who you are. They make up your personality, look, and attitude. Your flaws aren’t bad, they are charming and unique. Without them, you just wouldn’t be you.
11. Learn something new
Refresh your mind and create a new skill set. Introducing new knowledge to your plate develops new confidence. When you’re educated about a topic, you will feel more comfortable speaking about it. Knowledge is power.
12. Let go of the past
The past can keep a hold on you, if you let it. Remember, it’s the past. It’s happened and it’s over now. You can’t change it, accept it and move forward. Allowing the past to hurt your confidence stunts your personal development.
13. Change your perspective
Choose to view things from a different perspective. Understanding your situation from all angles allows you to develop a positive way to respond to your emotions, your personal beliefs, your lifestyle or thoughts. Instead of letting a bad experience hinder your outlook, you will be able to respond confidently.
14. Have proper posture
Stand up straight, keep your chin up, no slouching. Proper posture isn’t just for the dinner table. Keeping a good posture shows confidence. When you slouch and cower away, you show that you are scared. When you stand with your chest out, you show that you are fearless and confident.
15. Exercise and eat healthy
Stay physically fit and keep track of what goes into your body. The way you look and feel plays a key role in your confidence. It’s hard to feel confident in yourself when you’re tired, out of shape and hungry.
16. Overcome your fears
Your fears hold you back and deflate your confidence. Don’t let your fears control your life, you’re strong than them. You have nothing to be scared of. In fact, most of your fears are all in your head.
17. Accept compliments
People don’t just compliment you for no good reason. They see your strengths, your beauty, your positivity, etc. Learn to accept compliments and show appreciation. When you believe in a compliment, your confidence will soar.
18. Respect yourself AND others
If you don’t respect yourself, nobody will. You are valuable, treat yourself that way. Your time, energy, emotions, etc. all deserve respect. When you respect yourself, you will be able to communicate with confidence and feel better about yourself. Treat the people around you with the same respect.
19. Start conversations
Whether it’s small talk or deep conversations, don’t be scared to speak up. Communicating with others can be intimidating, but the more conversations you participate in, the more confident you will feel.
20. Speak slowly and mindfully
Speaking slowly is a charismatic tool that shows authority and knowledge. When you take the time to convey your message slowly and mindfully, people will listen. You will capture all ears and ooze confidence.
Confidence is a personal skill that takes time and effort to develop. If you want to become self-assured and create a powerful sense of self, you have to make some changes to the way you think about yourself and your life. Don’t let the monster under your bed keep you awake at night, turn on the light.
“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” – Helen Keller