Happy Me 🦋

Healing takes time. In my case it took me exactly one year!

Look at my face, those black scars. Those pimples were painful af😒

Now look at me

Not a perfect picture but you can’t deny that my skin is looking much better here 😀

I don’t associate my appearance with my self worth. But there were days I felt insecure, there were days I didn’t want to look at my face.

But thank god my confidence was not shattered this time, thank god I stopped obsessing over how I look long long back.

Healing takes time in my case it took me one year. I look my best when I feel beautiful from inside, when I feel completely healthy.

Guys, last year was tough for me, super super tough! And today through this post I wanted to share my happy face. 😇🦋

Beat Loneliness on New Year’s Eve

New Year’s Eve can be difficult you’re spending alone. And it natural to feel lonely during this time. This time is generally thought of as a time of joy and love, but for many people, it’s a time of loneliness. Some people live far from family and miss seeing their loved ones this time of year; others dread going to holiday parties and New year’s Eve

I am celebrating alone this year too. Unlike last year this year at least I won’t be shedding tears 😀

I am glad that finally I learned to celebrate and enjoy my own company. Here are few of my tips that may help you to beat the loneliness tonight.

1. Take a social media break:

Constantly scrolling through social media networks like Instagram, and seeing celebrities and influencers sharing their celebrations online can be hard to see. So just put a social media ban in place and try and avoid looking at your phone. Accept that life doesn’t always work out the way we want it to, or the way it’s portrayed through social media.

2. Reflect with gratitude:

The last day of the year is a perfect time for self-reflection, but chances are you’ve always been too caught up in the flurry of celebrations to really take an honest look back at the year. Think about things you feel grateful for this year. And say it goodbye with a good and positive note. Write it down.

3. Cook something for yourself:

Plan something delicious for dinner and set up a little date night for yourself. This is a special occasion, after all, and you’re worth spoiling!

4. Make your room your party venue:

Clean your room, make it your party venue and decide to watch a good movie before hand. Watch some meaningful or funny to feel the positive emotions

5. Schedule in a video call with loved ones:

You don’t need to be alone-alone! You can still chat to other people and share some quality time – even if it’s over the phone. Plan a video call with your friends or family.

6. Treat Yourself

Do something lovely for yourself as a little celebration. That can be a nice glass of fizz to celebrate with at midnight, a toasty bath and unwinding session in the tub, or a tasty dessert, or just look at stars and enjoying the silence and view.

Make this a nice evening for yourself so that it feels like an active choice to spend the night alone. Try to reframe it in your mind – you’re not lonely, you’ve planned a great evening with yourself, for yourself, and that’s something to look forward to.

7. Don’t compare your evening.

If you’re planning on being alone on New Year’s Eve, try to avoid looking at what everyone else is up to. No matter how much you’re enjoying your evening, you’ll instantly feel a bit rubbish if you look at what an amazing time everyone else is having. So just don’t compare.

8. Reframe Negative Thoughts with something good:

Just imagine starting the first day of the year with no regrets from the night before. You could go for an early morning walk, do some gentle yoga or get started on a productive hobby instead of lying in bed with an almighty headache. Think about spending next day on a positive note and just don’t believe negative thoughts.

Your feelings are valid, feel it.

Remember your feelings are valid and it is normal to feel lonely on such occasions. Set an alarm, give yourself some time to honor how you feel and then get back to having a fun evening.

Tip: If you’re focused on a task, like cooking, you’re less likely to sit and feel lonely. Try to stay slightly busy without overwhelming yourself and the evening will fly by – in a good way! Try to plan 1-2 hours of the night, like what movie to watch, whom you should call, watching any stand up comedy, or what to eat, or just dance it out, whom to call, or thinking about any new resolution. Or having a normal evening, not acknowledging what’s going on, and just taking some time to yourself.

Remember there’s no big pressure to stay up and celebrate – it can be just another evening for you if that’s what you want. You won’t really be missing much anyway, so do what’s best for you!

Hope this helps to anyone who is feeling lonely and unloved today.

Wishing you all a very Happy New Year 2021❤️ Wishing for the good times 🙂

Things to do in 2021

This is inspired by many famous bloggers.

Since 2020 wasn’t that good for me, I am really desperate that things change for me next year.

I already feel old, there are many things I haven’t done, most of the times I feel melancholic. So this is just to give myself little push and excitement. And I really wanted to share this. Let me know if you try this too. Also please don’t judge because most of them are very silly.

1. Sleeping under the stars

2. Watch sunset(with mindfullness)

3. Watch sunrise (with mindfulness)

4. Try a new dish

5. Try a new drink

6. Go on a blind date 😀

7. Writing and sending hand written letter to someone

8. Going out alone for a movie date, all by yourself and enjoy your own company.

9. Get a different haircut or maybe try coloring your hair

10. Relax in a spa bath

11. Invite your friends/family for dinner and cook it by yourself.

12. Organising surprise dinner for someone

13. Paint a picture/drawing for yourself and keep it

14. Sing your heart out at karaoke

15. Do any volunteer work for the day

16. Developing any one good habit(like this year I started working out, anything simple and good)

17. Make a gratitude jar. Take a jar and write things you’re grateful for in chits. Open it from time to time and read it

18. Try Yoga

19. Save money for travel

20. Solo trip

21. Visit a new beach and wear bikini 😀

22. Learn some new words in a different language

23. Get a massage

24. Make a list of tv-series/movies and watch it

25. Have a sunset mocktail

26. Learn a dance style

27. Buy a houseplant and take care of it

28. Make something for the house. Anthing for your home decor.

29. Give food to someone in need

30. Try to meditate for one hour

31. Do an online course

32. Host or attend costume party

33. Make someone a birthday or celebration cake

34. Spend one entire day without using any social media

35. Spend one entire day without using your phone 😰😰😰

36. Forgive someone who has hurt you and let them know

37. Compliment a stranger, it will possibly make their day

38. Play a board game with friends or family like ludo, chess or carrom

39. Take your camera with you for a whole day and capture everything and anything that takes your interest

40. Hold a mini movie festival at home. Invite your best friends, ask a movie they love and spend a whole afternoon and evening together curled up chatting, eating and drinking and sharing old favourites.

41. Try a completely new look, new different outfit you never tried

42. Find a spot with a good view and settle down with a friend or loved one or even alone and enjoy.

43. Write down your life plan. It doesn’t have to be specific, or even achievable. Just a guide for all the things you would like to do and then you can tick and cross off the ones that you want to work towards.

44. Write things you love about yourself, write an essay and keep it with you forever

45. Have a major clear out. De-clutter, if it’s not pretty, useful or it hasn’t been used in the last 6 months, be ruthless, let it go

46. Spend a whole day in bed watching movies, reading books, writing or just cuddle with your pillow

47. Read a good book and write down quotes, or whatever you learned from the book

49. Write a story, poem or article; for yourself or submit it to a website or newspaper magazine or just post it on your blog/social media

50. Meet new people or make new friend

51. Gift yourself something nice and meaningful

Please feel to suggest anything else which I can try. Okay Bye, hope you guys are enjoying your holidays 🙂

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